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Here’s How To Remove The Doubt, Fear, Pain and Uncertainty of The Most Important Decision You’ll Ever Make In Your Life…
We’re Relationship Coaches Susie and Otto Collins and we’d like to ask you some VERY important questions about your relationship. Because no one else will see or know your answers, please answer as openly and honestly as you can. Your relationship and personal happiness depends on what you do to move yourself forward ‘”starting right now. Here are the questions…
Have you or your partner emotionally or physically abandoned the relationship and you want to know whether you should give it one more try? Do you feel like there is still love between the two of you but because of everything that’s happened, you’re wondering whether that is enough to keep you together? If you said “yes” to any part of the questions above then welcome to the most important question you will ever ask yourself… “Should YOU Stay or Should YOU Go?”
If you’ve read this web page so far, then we don’t have to tell you how important this decision can be. It’s been said that your choice of a mate or partner is the single biggest factor that determines your personal happiness in life and to that we cannot disagree. If you make the right decision about your relationship'” happiness, love and peace of mind are possible. If you make the wrong decision and it could be a decision you’ll regret for a long time, maybe forever.
If you’re in a relationship that isn’t working and you’re not sure what to do, we’d like you to know that there is hope for a great relationship, no matter how desperate your situation appears right now.
One of the biggest things you can do to help yourself right now is NOT to beat yourself up about what’s going on. Please tell yourself that you’re doing the best you can and that everything is going to be fine. There is something, however, we must tell you that almost no one ever figures out before it costs them a lot of time, energy, pain and frustration …
Why Making “No Decision” About Your Relationship is Almost Always The Wrong Decision…
If you’re like a lot of people (and couples), you might think that if you put off the decision of whether you want to stay in or leave your relationship, the problems you are having will somehow magically heal themselves or disappear.
So many people waste so much precious time when they could be experiencing an incredible relationship filled with love, passion and joy, either in their current relationship or one that is more of what they want. But it’s not your fault… We do this because very often, as we’re growing up, we’re taught to hold back, not tell people how we really feel or what’s important to us. We’re taught to NOT “rock the boat’ and to not cause trouble.
After working with hundreds of individuals and couples in our relationship coaching practice to help them make the best decision possible about whether to Stay or Go… We’ve seen almost everything and we can honestly say that a couple of the biggest mistakes you could ever make when trying to make this decision are these:
1) Trying to make this decision alone or 2) Putting too much stock or value in advice from well-meaning friends, co-workers, associates, family members or anyone you like and trust as you make this incredibly important and difficult decision.
If you are trying to decide whether to stay or go and you’re trying to do it alone'” you should know that it’s critically important to have the genuine support of someone who’s emotionally healthy and has the skills to serve as a guide and advisor as you make one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make. What we’ve found is this'” no matter how much you want to make this decision in private, in secret or without anyone knowing about it'” too much is at stake to make this decision without someone in your corner who’s not only been down this road themselves but has also helped other people like you navigate the sometimes murky waters that can come with a decision like this.
If you’re getting help and advice from your friends, family or other important people in your life about whether to stay or go'”this is both good news and bad news and here’s why…
This good news is… You have people who love or care about you enough to try to offer you the best love, guidance, support and wisdom they have to offer.
The thing to watch out for when you’re getting advice from your friends, family or other people who care about you is… No matter how well-meaning these advice-givers in your life are and no matter how much they love you, when they are giving you advice, they are ALL coming from their own biases, prejudices, neuroses, rules for living, ways of looking at the world and history.
What this means is'” no matter how well informed they are, how much they love or care about you or want to support you they are not you and don’t have the same set of rules and values as you.
Because of this, there is NO WAY anyone else can truly know what is the best thing for you. They can think they know or have a good idea what you should do. But, in the end there is no way they can get behind your eyeballs and know your hopes, dreams, fears, desires, wants and expectations about what you really want for your relationship and your life. Otto remembers vividly an example of this when he was in the process of leaving his first marriage. One night a lifelong friend called him up… Read more…
